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"Love"

Can I let you on on a big secret? I am a sucker for love, romance, fairytale ending, the works. And for the first time I am happy to say I am not ashamed of it. Why should I be? Sure love hurts and it involves heartache and drama and binge eating - okay if I don't stop now I might retract that statement. I just recently discovered a poet called Rumi, he said: All we need is love's confusing joy. Dude was on point! If we are all really honest with ourselves we know what we want and that is someone who will accept us with our perfections and imperfections. Someone who will never leave no matter the mistakes we find ourselves making. Basically someone to love us.

But lets face it, we are afraid. Everyone is afraid to open up, to be vulnerable, to give someone else the power to hurt us, some more than others. Truth be told I am scared too, just like everyone else the fear of getting hurt stops me from enjoying the fruits of love. But who can blame me, look around, nobody really cares any more. People aren't invested in their feelings as they are invested in their jobs, education, money or whatever it is people are into these days. However invested in other things we may be we can't deny the fact that having someone to share all our accomplishments with would complete everything. The money, the cars, the fancy jobs they all provide some level of satisfaction but nothing beats that wonderful feeling that you get when you are in love. When just one thought of that special person plasters a smile on your face for the whole day.

So what am I saying today? Get the fancy car, the big office job, the beautiful condo out looking the beach but most importantly find the one to share all that with. It's not easy, trust me I know but come on, have a little faith in human nature. Open up your heart for once and if you get hurt I am terribly sorry. But  don't be just heartbroken, be thankful for the experience and learn something from it. There is someone out there for everyone, I think. And if you are a sceptic like many are, get out of your comfort zone for once and live a little for heaven sake. With that I leave you with the beautiful words of Rumi:

                   “Love asks us to enjoy our life 
                          For nothing good can come of death. 
                         Who is alive? I ask. 
                         Those who are born of love. "

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  1. rily nyc Lassie hehe! cnt believe i read whole thing

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  2. i m also a sucker for love
    believe in fairytale love
    hehe! happily ever after
    but truth is that don't exist
    i always thought that if i give it my all, sacrifice my time, spend every moment, every hour to show my love that the relationship would last but always same thing happens it ENDS.
    And because of who i m i want it to end on good note and suggest that we be friends,.. quite a pain in the ass that is excuse my language

    sometimes i tell myself that i should change and when i m doing that my conscience pulls me back apparently i m not suited for the person i want to change be.

    i guess i have to continue trying maybe one day...
    the things we do for love's confusing joy

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  3. yes one day maybe it will work out..have hope

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